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7 Reasons Why Asking for Help Will Unlock Your Success’s Stalemate (Part 3)

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helpWe’re picking up where we left off with Part 2 of this series.

Your next level of achievement is out there. It’s like a Christmas present under the tree with your name on it.

If you want this gift, this achievement, you must take the necessary actions to open it.

It’s not so difficult to sit crossed legs by the tree and tear away at the thin, colorful wrapping paper. On the contrary, it’s quite fun and exciting!

Guess what?

The acquisition of your goals and treasures can also be fun and exciting!

BUT, it’s not going to happen on accident.

If you feel like you’ve plateaued, or that you’re in a bit of a rut, it’s time to take action.

What kind of action?

Asking for help.

Sorry, “asking for help” is a bit misleading. Why?

It doesn’t take much at all to ask for help, just like it doesn’t take much to throw the basketball at the goal. But as we all know, there is a monumental difference between a six-year-old throwing the basketball at the goal and a NBA veteran doing the same.

What’s the difference?


Learn the best technique for asking for help so that you may increase the probability of getting that “yes” and grounding yourself so that nothing is lost when you hear “no”.

What are you afraid of losing when faced with a “no”? Why is this frightening to you? How long has this idea held you back?

*If you haven’t familiarized yourself with practices 1-5, pause, visit Part 1, and return here for the conclusion of this series.


#6 Understand What’s Actually Happening

In Part 2 of this series, we finished with outlining the best approach to verbally asking for help- the actual performance of it all.

What did you learn here? Was there a step you’ve been skipping? If so, do you regularly skip it or is it just in certain situations?

You’d think our discussion would end here. You asked for help and they said X. What’s left to do?

There’s nothing to “do” per se, but there is a dimension of understanding you must visit if you want to get value beyond the “yes” or “no”. What kind of value?

It’s all about sending out the right messages into the Universe. A proclamation if you will.

In your journey to personal success, this “yes” or “no” isn’t the end of the story. There will always be a new goal or benchmark to meet. That’s life, isn’t it?

When preparing, performing, or reflecting on “asking for help”, you must acknowledge and hold the entire timeline of your journey in your mind. You must:

  1. Understand that this particular “yes” or “no” is not the final verdict on if or when your goal or resources will be realized.
  2. Understand that you are acting in alignment of what is required of you in this stage of development and reverberating this intention out into the Universe.
  3. Understand that “no” doesn’t really mean “no”…it just means “not right now”.

For example, I have a potted plant that sits on my balcony. I leave it outside and “ask” for sunshine and rain. If the weather says “no” to sunshine and rain today, I know that this is not the final verdict as to whether or not my French Lavender will survive or not.

I also know that I’m doing what is required to help this plant fulfill its potential. I also know that even though it didn’t rain or shine on my plant today, it will soon.

BUT, only if I don’t give up on the plant. It must be ready and available for these resources, i.e., I have to put it on the balcony or there’s ZERO chance it will grow.

Do you see how “asking for help” is like this plant? Do you see how “no” actually means “not right now”?


#7 Stay Connected

If you follow the ideas and practices presented in this series, you will reach your goals quicker and with less struggle. Why?

Because of proper technique. Just like the NBA veteran, right?

The more you work with this process, the easier it will become for you. The more you work with this process, the louder your results will be. The more you work with this process, the more your environment will feed you.

Once you have known success by reaching out to others, it opens the lifestyle to more success in this fashion- it’s a gift giving fashion.

Right now this path, from 1) the resources you need to 2) yourself, may be dense and overgrown- just like an unkept hiking trail in the back-country of Colorado. However, once navigated it is mapped.

Once this relationship is mapped, you may visit it as often as you like. The more you visit this process, the more “beaten” this trail becomes.

Stay connected to this process. Let it become a part of your new lifestyle.


Your Next Step

Your next step is to identify the one area of your life where you are struggling the most. Once identified, pinpoint the exact challenge you are having the most difficulty with. Then, look to your Inner Circle of relationships (then Outer Circle) and identify the one person who may be able to support you with information or a helping hand.

If you’re absolutely stuck on where to go or who to ask for help, you are encouraged to seek out the expertise and guidance of 1-on-1 Coaching.


Food for Thought

Why do you think most people have difficulty in asking for help? Are you one of these people? If so, why? If not, why do you think you have a different outlook?

Please share your thoughts with us by leaving a comment below. It creates substantial value for our Community to hear from others who are also invested in personal development.

P.S. Quick reads like this are incredibly powerful and serve well to remind us, get us back on track, and to help us learn new skills. However, for those of you out there who are interested in even bigger gains towards personal freedom, removing blocks, deepening relationships, and connecting to Source, consider Coaching. It is truly the most transformative experience you will ever have. If this is you, sign up for a free Coaching Strategy Session and learn what Coaching can do for you (serious applicants only).

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