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How to Escape the Gnarled Limbo of Life Goals

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canstockphoto6822235Limbo- the absolute worst state for any human.

Why?

Because we don’t know we’re there.

It’s a stagnant mode of oblivion where we experience the worst of “in-between”. It’s a tug-of-war and it’s you vs. you.

There’s no winning, no moving, no breath, no life.

…Only rotting.

This is a real place and many of us send our life goals here.

We’re not aware that we made this choice and we can’t recognize it for what it is.

It’s an illusion and nobody’s coming to rescue you or your dreams.

Are we doomed?

Absolutely not.

ALTHOUGH, if you’re awakened, if you have fire for your life goals, you have to save yourself. You have to save yourself RIGHT NOW.

…And all it takes is a pen and paper.

 

Some People

Why do some people get what they want and others don’t?

Surely you’ve wrinkled your brow at this one.

What did you come up with? Did it give you solace? Did it help you to move forward? And if so, how much movement did it give?

No matter how much movement you’ve had towards your goals, if you’re not less than 90 days away from it, it’s because you’re suffering from cognitive dissonance.

“Cognitive Dissonance” is what’s lit up in bright lights at the gates of Limbo.

…Only, we don’t see it.

The reason why some people get what they want and others don’t is because of cognitive dissonance, or to put it plainly, “conflicting wants”.

We know what we want and we shine the light on it. However, we fail to look in the periphery for “conflicting wants” lurking about.

For example, the house wife wants a new, rewarding, high paying job. But, she feels regret about not spending as much time with her children. This is a conflicting want.

The young man wants to be more productive in his physical, financial, and interpersonal relationships. But, he hates the idea of being tied down to a schedule. This is a conflicting want.

What do this house wife and young man have in common?

They’re both suffering. Their conflicting wants put them in Limbo.

 

The Cure

What’s the cure?

Answer: Peace.

But how?

Sooth the conflicting wants with awareness.

Once you have addressed and quantified your conflicting wants, you can move forward with awareness and out of Limbo. It makes for a VERY, VERY exciting phase in your life. So hold on tight.

This is what you do…

  1. Get a sheet of paper and pen. Don’t use the word processor on your computer.
  2. List ONE life goal.
  3. Bullet point ALL of the “sacrifices” you must make to pave the way for this life goal.
  4. Next to each “sacrifice”, rate it on a scale from 0-10 for how difficult it will be for you to make this “sacrifice” (10 is most difficult).

When you are finished, you will have a list of all of your conflicting wants and a quantifiable measurement of how difficult it will be to be at peace with these ideas and feelings.

You will also know what is THE most challenging area for you. This is the first item you should begin to give your attention to. Yes, it may be the most difficult, but other conflicting wants will fall like dominoes.

 

A Few Notes

Step #3 is terribly important in this process.

It takes a truly honest heart and mind to perform this properly. If you can, let those skeletons out of that closet.

Your “sacrifices” may include…

  • Programming, or conditioning from your childhood
  • Fear of change
  • Fear of failure
  • Fear of success
  • Fear of “leaving others behind”
  • Trading your seemingly more achievable #2 life goal for #1

Your list will probably also include less mind-blowing changes like…

  • Less time on social media
  • Less time on Netflix
  • Putting the TV in the closet
  • Adjusting the diet
  • Getting Coaching.

 

In Conclusion

Limbo is a real place and it’s populated with life goals.

Save yourself and harmonize your cognitive dissonance into one, clear, and exciting life path.

 

Like always, if you have any questions about this or any other article, please ask by leaving a comment below. Also, we would love to start a conversation here. Tell us…What life goal are you currently working towards? What’s your next step? Please share as it may be the perfect motivation or support for someone in our community.

 

P.S. Quick reads like this are incredibly powerful and serve well to remind us, get us back on track, and to help us learn new skills. However, for those of you out there who are interested in even bigger gains towards personal freedom, removing blocks, deepening relationships, and connecting to Source, consider Coaching. It is truly the most transformative experience you will ever have. If this is you, sign up for a free Coaching Strategy Session and learn what Coaching can do for you (serious applicants only).

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Ana August 17, 2015 at 2:42 pm

I am in limbo and have been for ages… I am the woman (single mum) who wants more from career/work but wants to prioritise her young daughter. I am “stuck” due to my long distance relationship, which can’t move forward to us being together. I am approaching 50 and feel scared I will be stuck forever. And yet my situation isn’t that awful. So why do I feel stuck, and should I just learn to be satisfied with what I have?

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Richard August 18, 2015 at 3:05 pm

Ana, thank you for sharing. You feel stuck because you are experiencing the worst of “conflicting wants”. You are distracted. The very best thing you can do for your situation is choose one dimension of your life to commit to and move all of your resources to this area. Choose what you give your attention to based on what you feel is most aligned with your purpose on this planet. When you get things sorted out in this dimension (the most important one to you), the ball of confusion will begin to unravel. Ana, did you find this helpful? Please feel free to share and ask any further questions here.

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