Sooo – it’s time to talk about “Desire” the top right hand position of what I call “The Loop Of Success”.
Just as an aside, the reason I refer to “Desire” as a position on the loop rather than the starting point, is because there is no starting point.
It’s A Loop…
Oprah calls it “The Courage To Follow Your Passion”, I call it “Desire”, it’s almost the same thing.
I’m going to explain the slight distinction and that will help you understand your desires, and how to identify what’s important and what’s not.
We all have desires (and lots of them), better health, a partner, maybe even a new partner, financial independence, a great family relationship, a new car / home / pair of skis etc etc.
What does matter is the strength of that desire. Lets work with some personal examples from my life.
I have a desire to learn to surf. This is something that I would really like to do. But I’ve done nothing about it, ever!
There’s always something on, or something more important to be done. So I have to face the reality that my desire to learn to surf is really not that strong.
On the other hand, I am a very good skier and I have a strong desire to improve my skills and ski tougher terrain. Only about 4 weeks ago (Australian winter) I was skiing with two professional skiers (friends of mine) who were helping me take my technique to the next level.
Interestingly, I found the time, energy and money to go skiing, but not to learn to surf, maybe I’ll do it this summer (Australian summer is just around the corner), or maybe I won’t. I think I know that I wont….
Here’s the gold, I have the courage to “follow my passion” to improve my skiing, no matter what it takes, but I don’t have the courage to follow my passion to learn to surf.
It’s such a relief to say that out loud, to admit to myself that learning to surf is a “nice to have” idea, but that is all it is. Being a great skier is a passion and it’s that passion which will create an ever lasting supply of “courage” to follow my passion. And that’s the gold, an ever lasting supply of courage and motivation to follow your passion.
It’s also what makes all the other steps in the loop easy to stick with.
This, of course, on it’s own isn’t enough. And that’s the whole point of this series of posts. Each part on it’s own isn’t enough, and it’s time for you to get the whole story instead of one component, ’cause without the whole story, nothing will work.
So here’s a simple exercise for you to help you determine what your strongest desires REALLY are. It will only take you a few minutes and you can write the answer on the comment section of my blog.
Answer this question:
“If I had 10 Billion Dollars (that’s a lot of money) what is the first thing I would pay an expert to help me become an instant success at? ”
Points to note:
1. Money is no object, so you don’t need to do something that creates money, unless you enjoy the challenge of creating money.
2. Make sure you are listing the end desire, not a step towards it, for example, when I asked a new client last week, she said to learn easier, faster and have a greater retention of knowledge. When I asked why, she said because she really wanted to become a health coach and it was necessary to be able to learn faster and retain more so that she could do that. So the real answer to the question was “Become A Health Coach”.
Let me know your answers in the comments section. I promise I’ll read them and help you out with some probing questions so you can identify the desire you have which will supply an unlimited amount of energy and courage to follow your passion.
In the next email we’ll be looking at Mindset – very important, but on it’s own it’s useless…
If you want to have a look at the previous post click here
To your success
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